Romans 12:2 says we are not to conform to this world:
And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may prove what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect.
1 Timothy 2:9-10 teaches women to be modest and discreet. We should be dressed in godliness:
Likewise, I want women to adorn themselves with proper clothing, modestly and discreetly, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly garments, but rather by means of good works, as is proper for women making a claim to godliness.
Ephesians 1:3-4 tells us we have been blessed with spiritual blessings and we should be holy and blameless before God:
Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly places in Christ, just as He chose us in Him before the foundation of the world, that we would be holy and blameless before Him.
Again, in Ephesians 5:27, we are to be holy and blameless:
that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless.
2 Corinthians 11:14-15 tells us that Satan disguises himself as an angel of light. There are those who are don’t belong to God who disguise themselves as servants of righteousness.
No wonder, for even Satan disguises himself as an angel of light.15 Therefore it is not surprising if his servants also disguise themselves as servants of righteousness, whose end will be according to their deeds.
These men (and women) have slipped into the church, among us, and many have believed the lies that say we can look like the world or that we can be Godly people and make excuses for doing the things the world says is ok or acceptable to God, that we have “license” to do these things, when God convicts otherwise.
Jude 1:4 shows us that these people creep in, unnoticed.
For certain persons have crept in unnoticed, those who were long beforehand marked out for this condemnation, ungodly persons who turn the grace of our God into licentiousness and deny our only Master and Lord, Jesus Christ.
While I was never a cheerleader, I had many friends who were. I would watch routines and practices, and be very happy for my friends who were “cheering” for our team. I can remember, as a teen, being at pep rallies and ball games, and my male friends sitting around me would make comments about some of my friends who were cheerleading. Comments would include sexual things they would like to “do” to the girls. There were also comments about what they wanted the girls to do to them. Many of them took the lustful thoughts as a challenge and with-in a few days those boys would be “dating” the girl mentioned in the conversation. Sometimes, warning friends of the intention of the boy was not taken to heart. Because of my weight, many of the girls, I thought of as friends, told me I was just jealous of the relationship.
I also witnessed many boys, who would have evidence of being physically excited watching the girls while they were cheering or dancing. Because so many of my friends were the “guys,” they didn’t mind sharing with me how they would use pictures of girls in their cheerleading attire, along with the memories of the moves in dances. These girls had literally become “sex symbols” for young teen boys. Now that we are all adults, I have to wonder how those girls would have felt knowing that their innocent “cheerleading pictures” had been used for the same purpose “centerfolds” were used? I wonder about the boys who “used” those pictures. Do the ones with daughters want their cheerleading daughters being photographed in their short uniforms, even innocently? I also think about how much easier it is to get photos of the girls today. In the 80’s we didn’t have cell phones with cameras. I wonder if parents ever think about how their daughter’s innocence is being turned into a sexual fantasy. Many of these teens act on their fantasies. The boys pursue the girls because of that fantasy.
I am a realist. I know that we can’t protect our daughters from becoming the sexual object for the male gender, no matter how much we try. I also know we can’t protect our sons from having those thoughts. Although, I do believe we can control the activities in which they are involved that propel them into a situation that embraces the sexy ideal. “Christian” parents have allowed daughters on cheer and dance teams to perform to songs like, “Don’t You Wish Your Girlfriend Was Hot, Like Me?” How far will we go, as Christians in today’s worldly standards, before we stand up and say, “This just is not appropriate for our family!” How far will it have to go before we say, “We are Christians and this is NOT honoring or glorifying Christ?” Why? Why do we NOT take that stand? Are we afraid of the way we will look to those around us? Are we afraid of the friends we will lose? Are we afraid of the gossip and talk that follows?
There are definitely consequences for standing up for what we believe. I often feel I am not quite “bold enough” in my stand for Christ and for the propriety of Christian life, but even with what I do share, I have people back away from me. There has been a time my number of “friends” on Facebook was over 1,000. Today, I have about 980. I have friends from all walk of life, and I love them all, no matter their beliefs or differences. I really wish face book would use a term other than “friends.” My real friends know how I believe and they support me in my beliefs. The “friends” on face book are not really “friends” they are more like “acquaintances.” I obviously offend quite a few people because of my beliefs. Every time I post something about the wrong of abortion, that number goes down. Every time I post about something God has shown me, or something God has done in the lives of others, that make dramatic changes in their lives, that number goes down. I shared a blog testimony from a woman who was a cheerleader and now a Christian mom, who does not want her daughters to cheer, that number went down. So, I KNOW the fall out from standing for what I believe. Recently, my whole family has experienced the consequences for our beliefs. The people around us know we are Christians. They know we are conservative, yet, when we have to take a stand for our own family, and it cuts us off from “enjoying” something with them, instead of understanding the work God has done in us, they ostracize. Recently, we were invited to an event by another family. The children were participating in this event. Only a few minutes after it started, we left because we felt it was not appropriate for our family to see. We were pursued by the other parent we were with, and even though she knew how conservative we were, she asked why we were choosing to leave. My husband told her, in his “not so tactful” way. At first, she said she understood. But the fall out of her actions and words after the event, even several days after, showed that she truly did not understand just how much of a conviction God has given to us. Whether she realized it or not, with her words, she basically criticized us for taking a stand on what we believe the Bible teaches.
One may say they have not been “convicted” that allowing such is wrong. Others say, “we are not denying Christ by allowing this.” I have to ask, would you want God/Christ watching your daughter dance to “Don’t You Wish Your Girlfriend Was Hot, Like Me?” Would you want Him to see your child be used as a “centerfold” in a short skirt? IF we are Christians then Christ lives in us… so when you watch it, are you not taking Christ along with you? Do you think Christ “checks out” of our lives while we are watching and allowing our daughters to make those sexual moves publicly? What Scripture justifies allowing our daughters and sons to do such things?
As a Christian adult and having been given the responsibility of being an example for a young girl and teen boys, I have to ask, do I want that young girl to be the object of someone’s sexual excitement? Do I want my boys to be put into a situation where they are welcome to watch and have those thoughts and be made believe there is nothing wrong with it? Does this situation glorify God in any way? The world says there is nothing wrong with it… I can no longer say that.
In closing, I would be remiss if I didn’t give attention to 1 Peter 2:7-11:
This precious value, then, is for you who believe; but for those who disbelieve, “The stone which the builders rejected, This became the very corner stone,” and, “A stone of stumbling and a rock of offense”; for they stumble because they are disobedient to the word, and to this doom they were also appointed. But you are a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people for God’s own possession, so that you may proclaim the excellencies of Him who has called you out of darkness into His marvelous light; for you once were not a people, but now you are the people of God; you had not received mercy, but now you have received mercy. Beloved, I urge you as aliens and strangers to abstain from fleshly lusts which wage war against the soul. Keep your behavior excellent among the Gentiles, so that in the thing in which they slander you as evildoers, they may because of your good deeds, as they observe them, glorify God in the day of visitation.
Is the Cornerstone offensive to you? Do you feel like it is only in place to cause you to stumble? If so, is it because of disobedience to the Word? God says we have been chosen to proclaim His excellencies. Is such behavior “HIS excellence?” Is it easy for those around us to see that we are aliens and strangers that don’t “fit INTO” or conform to the world’s acceptance of what is godly? Does our behavior, or the behavior we allow and encourage in our children abstain from fleshy lusts? Is your behavior excellent among the world? Will your deeds lead others to glorify God in the day of His coming?