Ladies, can you remember the daydreams of a knight in shining armor on a white steed riding up to sweep you away and save the day? For some of you, that may not have been that long ago. I can remember a time when that is exactly what I wanted. I wanted the fairy tale, the happily ever after, with a handsome knight providing all of my wants and desires and pampering me. Someone who would come along and take me out of the place I was (and over the years those places have been quite varying) and take me to a palace in a far off land where flowers are always blooming, the weather is always beautiful, and every dream comes true. This is where I wish blogging had noises built in because I would put the sound of loud screeching tires here, as if someone is slamming on the brakes! Yes, I think most little girls (clears throat, hmm, and big girls) have had a similar dream and then …. LIFE HAPPENS. We are taught from an early age that we are princesses, or daddy’s princess. We are read fairy tales and stories of these rescued princesses and the pretty pictures and we think, “I WANT THAT!!” We meet this cute guy and quickly “fall in love” and we could just “eat him up” and then we get married and too often, wish we had eaten him up so he no longer existed. In today’s society, for a man, not being the knight in shining armor is punishable by divorce. And for the female, not being the “hot” princess is punishable by divorce. We have relationships built on what satisfies our desires. When our desires are no longer met, the relationship is done! We have lost the bond of commitment when we aren’t getting what we want. Today, I want to look at the knight and if that would be what the KING would choose for His princess.
By definition, a knight is a gentleman-soldier, usually high-born, raised to privileged military status after training. A knight is one who holds a nonhereditary title conferred by a king or queen in recognition of service to the country. He is a defender, a champion, a zealous fighter for a cause. Herein, is where the problem lies. If you belong to Christ, you are now an heir to a Kingdom. Your Father is THE KING! You are a royal princess. A knight will never do! You see, a knight holds a nonhereditary title. A title given, a title earned, not a title by birthright. The King would never want that for his daughter. A king will want someone who will have the qualities of a king, someone who is royalty by birth, a bloodline rich with sovereign blood. When I realized this, my whole world changed.
As a child of the Almighty King, I had been dreaming about a worldy view of a husband. I did not have a Godly view. Now, I know that none of the men I know will ever be a king, but as a child of God, he should have qualities of a king. He should have characteristics of a good leader. In some of my previous posts, I have talked about the qualities of a Godly husband. Today I want to specifically look at the qualities of a good leader, because God calls men to be Godly leaders in their homes.
As humans, with a sinful nature, leaders tend to focus on their rights, their power, their support system (those who are “on our side”). As a Christian leader, a man should focus on responsibilities, service, and obedience to God. As Christians, this should be the foundation of faith for all of us. A leader will take his responsibilities seriously. He will not be focused on his “rights” as a leader, but on following responsibilities such as: repentance to God, living a holy life, taking care of those under his leadership, and many more. He also has a responsibility to serve, and to obey God. The right kind of leader will be a servant-leader.
In Proverbs, we see an over abundance of qualities of a good King. I want to look at a few of those in this post.
Proverbs 16:12 shows us that a king (leader) will have integrity. “It is an abomination for kings to commit wicked acts, For a throne is established on righteousness.” Again, we see integrity as a necessity for a king in Proverbs 29:4, “The king gives stability to the land by justice, But a man who takes bribes overthrows it.” If a man has no integrity, it can destroy his family. His throne (his home) must be established with righteousness. He must rule by justice.
A king should be self-controlled. Proverbs 16:14, “The fury of a king is like messengers of death, but a wise man will appease it.” Proverbs 19:12 The king’s wrath is like the roaring lion, but his favor is like dew on the grass. A man should show an example of self-control.
A good king is compassionate. Proverbs 29:14 says, “If a king judges the poor with truth, His throne will be established forever.”
A good king has no need for man’s approval, but trusts in the Lord. Proverbs 29:25, “The fear of man brings a snare, but he who trusts in the Lord will be exalted.
A compassionate man who shows integrity and self-control and trusts in the Lord, a man who has been given the gift of God’s grace and will inherit the Kingdom, is the kind of man the KING would choose for His daughter. Today, I am thankful, not for a Knight in shining armor, but for the man God arranged for me to marry two years ago. A man with qualities of the King!