This is a series I wrote a few years ago, before my husband and I got married. It was some of the points God began showing me as I was starting a new journey and preparing for the Godly man He had planned for my life. I hope this series helps someone who is looking for THAT man. Remember, you do not have to compromise what God instructs.
This is Part 6 (Final Post):
God sets aside some important characteristics we must have as Christians. God teaches us to be honest. In Proverbs 6:16, we are given a list of the seven things which are detestable to God:
There are six things which the LORD hates, Yes, seven which are an abomination to Him: Haughty eyes, a lying tongue, And hands that shed innocent blood, A heart that devises wicked plans, Feet that run rapidly to evil, A false witness who utters lies, And one who spreads strife among brothers.
Did you notice in this list of seven, two of them deal with dishonesty? Let’s take a look at a few verses on honesty and dishonesty and see what God’s Word teaches about this characteristic.
We are taught not to lie about others and to avoid being party to or standing in agreement with someone else’s falsehood about others.
Exodus 20:16 – “You shall not bear false witness against your neighbor.
Exodus 23:1 – ”You shall not bear a false report; do not join your hand with a wicked man to be a malicious witness.
In the following text, we see that dishonesty is harmful. Lies can not last and the truth will always be revealed.
Proverbs 12:17-22 He who speaks truth tells what is right, But a false witness, deceit. There is one who speaks rashly like the thrusts of a sword, But the tongue of the wise brings healing. Truthful lips will be established forever, But a lying tongue is only for a moment. Deceit is in the heart of those who devise evil, But counselors of peace have joy. No harm befalls the righteous, But the wicked are filled with trouble. Lying lips are an abomination to the LORD, But those who deal faithfully are His delight.
Honesty and dishonesty come from our hearts.
Matthew 15:19 – For out of the heart come evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, slanders
Luke 8:15 “But the seed in the good soil, these are the ones who have heard the word in an honest and good heart, and hold it fast, and bear fruit with perseverance
When we proclaim to be Christians, we are representing Christ. We know from scripture it is impossible for God to lie.
Hebrews 6:18 so that by two unchangeable things in which it is impossible for God to lie, we who have taken refuge would have strong encouragement to take hold of the hope set before us
God’s Word is clear there is no place for liars in Heaven.
Revelation 21:8 But for the cowardly and unbelieving and abominable and murderers and immoral persons and sorcerers and idolaters and all liars, their part will be in the lake that burns with fire and brimstone, which is the second death.”
Revelation 21:27 – and nothing unclean, and no one who practices abomination and lying, shall ever come into it, but only those whose names are written in the Lamb’s book of life.
Are you an honest person? Do you hold onto one of the characteristics God hates? Do you harm others with lies about them? Do you agree with others when they lie about someone or do you clear up the lie? Do you have dishonesty in your heart? Is there a place for you in Heaven?
Being an honest person will help to build your trustworthiness and your faithfulness, another quality Christians are encouraged to exemplify. In the Old Testament, the Hebrew word for trustworthy and for faithful is aman. Some of the meanings of this word are: to support, confirm, be faithful; uphold, nourish; foster; to be established, be faithful, make firm; sure; verified, reliable, faithful, trusty; believable. In the New Testament, the Greek word is pistos for both trustworthy and faithful. The meaning of this word is very similar to the Hebrew word: trusty, faithful; of persons who show themselves faithful in the transaction of business, the execution of commands, one who kept his plighted faith, worthy of trust that can be relied on; confiding, trusting; in the NT, one who trusts in God’s promises; one who is convinced that Jesus has been raised from the dead; one who has become convinced that Jesus is the Messiah and author of salvation.
Let’s take a look at a few verses from both the OT and NT to see what is taught about being trustworthy.
One can safely confide in a trustworthy person.
Proverbs 11:13 He who goes about as a talebearer reveals secrets, But he who is trustworthy conceals a matter.
A steward (manager, head of the house, overseer) must be trustworthy.
I Corinthians 4:2 In this case, moreover, it is required of stewards that one be found trustworthy.
Wives must also be found to be trustworthy
1 Timothy 3:11 In the same way, their wives are to be women worthy of respect, not malicious talkers but temperate and trustworthy in everything.
Living by God’s ordinances is living a faithful life.
Psalm 119:30 I have chosen the faithful way; I have placed Your ordinances before me.
Living a faithful life shows others that God is your one Master.
Luke 16:10-13 “He who is faithful in a very little thing is faithful also in much; and he who is unrighteous in a very little thing is unrighteous also in much. Therefore if you have not been faithful in the use of unrighteous wealth, who will entrust the true riches to you? And if you have not been faithful in the use of that which is another’s, who will give you that which is your own? No servant can serve two masters; for either he will hate the one and love the other, or else he will be devoted to one and despise the other. You cannot serve God and wealth.”
In reviewing your relationship with God, your family, your church, and friends, can you be found trustworthy? Can others confide in you? Are you a trustworthy husband? Are you a trustworthy wife? Are you faithful in following God’s way? Are you proving your Master to be God?
I John 1:9 tells us that God is faithful to forgive: If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
Again, if we follow the example of Christ, we will also forgive others.
We are to forgive others. We see in Matthew 6 that Jesus prays: And forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors.
We can not expect for receive forgiveness if we do not grant forgiveness to others. Continuing in Matthew 6: 14-15, Christ is still speaking and teaches:
“For if you forgive others for their transgressions, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others, then your Father will not forgive your transgressions.”
Matthew 18:32-35 “Then summoning him, his lord said to him, ‘You wicked slave, I forgave you all that debt because you pleaded with me. ‘Should you not also have had mercy on your fellow slave, in the same way that I had mercy on you?’ “And his lord, moved with anger, handed him over to the torturers until he should repay all that was owed him. “My heavenly Father will also do the same to you, if each of you does not forgive his brother from your heart.”
Mark 11:25-26 “Whenever you stand praying, forgive, if you have anything against anyone, so that your Father who is in heaven will also forgive you your transgressions. [“But if you do not forgive, neither will your Father who is in heaven forgive your transgressions.”]
We are also to forgive each time we are asked, no matter how many times that may be:
Luke 17:3-4 “Be on your guard! If your brother sins, rebuke him; and if he repents, forgive him. And if he sins against you seven times a day, and returns to you seven times, saying, ‘I repent,’ forgive him.”
Do you expect God to forgive you when you commit a sin? Are you forgiving of others?
Do you live an honest, trustworthy, faithful life, modeling a life of forgiveness?